Friday, June 17, 2011

What Would You Do Friday

He was there for me during the time I needed someone the most. I had just gotten out of a crazy relationship and I wanted someone to take my mind off of it all. He was thoughtful, compassionate and romantic. Just what I needed after all the HELL I had been through. I had only been single for a week, but who cares, he was perfect. He was what God sent to me. It didn’t matter that I had felt the same way about the guy before him.  I was hurt and anxious to move on. (Next!)  He took me shopping. Had flowers delivered to my job, took me on trips and spoiled me rotten. I wasn’t too concerned about the fact that he moved from job to job, because he always made me feel special. After six months and four jobs, I was a little apprehensive BUT, he came home every night, he wasn’t ALWAYS hanging out with his boys and he answered all my calls.  He did get a lot of unknown phone calls, which he didn’t answer in front of me.  (but hey, he was just trying to be polite).

A year into the relationship we were still on the honeymoon. His phone ranged while he was in the shower and he told me to answer it (even more confirmation that he was perfect!) I answered it and it was his mother. She was furious! After learning he was in the shower, she very bluntly told me I needed to run like hell. For the next five minutes she proceeded to tell me how he had taken out $40,000 worth of student loans in her name (without her permission), stole her credit card and his landlord was threatening to put him out because he was six months behind on his rent! Just as she was hanging up, he walked into the room, smiling and smelling so good…

                                                               WHAT WOULD YOU DO??

 Please post all comments below. Your feedback and support is greatly appreciated. SN: Fellas please put your self in the situation. We would love some male perspectives.

10 comments:

  1. Hhhhmmmm ... my head would tell me to listen to his mother and run like hell!! BUT, with a year already invested, Im sure my heart would tell me different. I don't think I could just walk away without tel...ling him what I knew and letting him explain. I'd probably still not be with him in the long run but maybe my honesty would shock some reality into him about how he treats people. I believe people can and do change, but only on their own terms.

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  2. Oh wow I honestly don't know what to say, but I feel like if you can steal from your mother the person thay raised you and took care of you for 18 years plus she probably helped him out in hard times, who to say you woulf not do it to me, after all I'm just a girlfriend. I would confront him, then run like hell....but I know we as women have a tendancy to think oh I'm different he would'nt do that to me.......I have also seen situations of ex friends who men have stolen thousands of dollars from them and also income tax checks and they still stayed with the guy. The guy also knew she had kids to take of and was single parent(recently separated from her husband) and they are still together today, might I add he hit on me I told while he was at her house, she confronted, cursed him out then 10 minutes later acted lile nothing had ever happened I just could not wrap my head around it....

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  3. This could be overwhelming for some! Wow!...I would sit him down and let him know of the news i just recieved, give him a chance to explin to me what's going on and let him know how I feel about the situation at hand. I will forgive him, forgive myself for allowing such, and ask God to forgive me!...We will most definitely part ways at this point. We get angry when we feel people have decieved us,but we can only be angry with ourseleves when we don't allow ourselves to heal from previous relationships. theworst that could happen to us, is to allow someone else to take ownership or power over us....It's time to ask God to help you through the true healing proces. It's time to take back your power and ownership of self!

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  4. I agree the first problem in this situation is not taking the time to heal from the previous relationship. A lot of times we "pretend not to know." I am sure there were plenty of red flags(ie. constantly changing jobs). We have to stop looking to other people to fix us.And stop running from our emotions because the truth is when you stop running they will still be right there waiting for you to deal with them. Adding another person to your unhealed heart is only complicate the situation. AND if his own Mother is telling you that run, then all i can say is you better lace up your shoe laces!!! The Lioness

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  5. I know I would leave. But it would still be hard as heck to wrap my mind around the fact that the guy I know and the guy she is describing is the same person. Smh!

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  6. I know this isnt a scary movie and you're not a white girl looking back for a killer but the same thing could be said....RUN BITCH RUN!! LOL! Seriously tho any man that will do his own mother that wrong will certainly have no remorse about hurting a female he's dating

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  7. OMG i wouldnt know what to do at that moment lol i probably would be lookin at him like he's crazy for a minute then i would tell him we have to talk like right now. because in that kind of situation its hard to trust a person who has rob there mom...then the next step i would be lokkin forward to finding another man cause he maybe planning to get you next.....cousin rashandra

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  8. whooo....that is deep. man. OK. so he's a fraud. and you saw the signs but ignored it. Now it's out in the open...he's lied to you...stolen from his MOM... You know what I would do...RUN!

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  9. One day my mom gave me the rent money and told me to hold it for her. At the time I liked this girl alot and I saw her at the store and wanted to impress her so I started counting all the money in front of her. She told me she would be my girl and I bought her ice cream, chips and candy. I got my ass whipped the next day but that happened when I was in 5th grade and I learned my lesson. If I ever was doing that bad I would have robbed a rich dude for 40k and break my mama off few stacks. What kind of movies was this guy watching growing up? Whoever had a master plan to rob their own mama and live happily ever after? I would never put my girl nor my family in that situation.

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